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When you\u2019re struggling with mental illness, for example anxiety and depression, it’s extremely easy to mistakenly assume that everyone dislikes spending time with us. Thinking the people around you secretly dislike you or don\u2019t want to be in the same space as you is a common experience for those dealing with mental health issues like anxiety and depression. <\/strong><\/p>\n
What we have to understand is that when we allow our negative thinking patterns to warp our sense of reality, it often affects how we perceive our interactions with others. If the thought pattern persists for an extended period of time, we are more likely to find evidence to validate our fears. The more scared we are cof people not liking us the more likely we are to come across people who act like they don’t like us. It’s a catch 22.<\/strong><\/p>\n
So maybe you’re uncomfortable because someone you don’t know very well is latching on to you for valdation; or maybe you’re in the opposite scenario where someone you are close withy mistakenly believes they aren’t loved. If you have someone in your life who’s seriously set on the idea that everyone hates them, it can be a heartbreaking and often frustrating pursuit to try to convince them otherwise.<\/p>\n
You could also be in the situation where someone suspects they are disliked and there’s an element of truth to it. What do you say in these kinds of circumstances? To help you in these situations we’ve written five comforting scripts that you can use to help them get back on the right track:<\/strong><\/p>\n
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\nWhat are you doing on this date? I was hoping that we could go and catch a movie, or get a drink? What do you think?<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
One reason that your friend might think that they\u2019re hated is because they haven\u2019t seen you or their other friends in a long time. You should try to make plans with them – it will remind your friend that they are not hated, and that you still actively want to be around them!<\/p>\n
The great thing about this script is that it doesn\u2019t put the ball in their court or expect your friend to make the plans. When you directly ask someone to do something on a certain date, it shows that you\u2019re making an ongoing effort to see them, so they shouldn\u2019t feel like they\u2019re the only person trying to make something happen.<\/p>\n
If possible, try and pick a date when you know for certain that your friend will be free – if you already know their schedule, it will show that you really do care about them. It also becomes much harder for your friend to say no!<\/p>\n
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Script 2 | <\/strong>Reassure Them When You Might Be Busy<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nJust because we can\u2019t talk every day doesn\u2019t mean we hate you at all! Everyone\u2019s just really busy at the minute, so finding the time to talk has been next to impossible. We all still love you very much!<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
A reason that someone might think that they\u2019re hated is that the people they want around always seem to be busy, or simply don\u2019t have the time to message them.<\/p>\n
Sometimes, it\u2019s better to reassure someone that they\u2019re not hated – it\u2019s just that finding the time to regularly talk can be difficult. Your friend should understand this, especially if you all work different schedules or don\u2019t have the same classes.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s also important to reassure your friend that you (and the rest of your group) do still love them. The great thing about this script is that it can help put into a reasonable perspective that everyone is simply doing different things, without the need to blame anyone.<\/p>\n
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Script 3 | <\/strong>Remind Them How Important They Are<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nNo one hates you! You\u2019re what keeps us all together! You\u2019re extremely important and we\u2019d be nothing without you, so please don\u2019t beat yourself up.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Someone who feels like they are hated will often forget that they are hugely important to you or your group of close friends. They might feel undervalued or underappreciated, which is why you should regularly remind them that they are much a part of the group as anyone else.<\/p>\n
If someone thinks they are hated, they will likely feel somewhat unimportant. When you reassure them that they are crucial to your group dynamic, it will instill a new sense of confidence that your friend might not have had before.<\/p>\n
This script can help to put the focus on just how important someone is: by saying that they are what keeps the group together, you\u2019re proving that they are not hated at all.<\/p>\n
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Script 4 | Empathise<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nIt\u2019s hard, I know. I\u2019ve been there too; sometimes I still feel like that, but it\u2019s important to remember that nobody hates you and we all only want the best for you!<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Being able to relate to someone is a great way to get them to open up with you, which could, in turn, create a stronger bond than there was initially.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s important to empathise, as it helps people to realize that they don\u2019t need to struggle alone. If they know that you\u2019ve been through a similar experience, they will be able to trust you more – this could then alleviate or relieve any other feelings of loneliness, proving to your friend that they are not hated at all.<\/p>\n
A great thing about this script is that it allows YOU to open up to someone else as well; showing someone that you trust them enough to share a sensitive secret with them will make them feel special and included. It\u2019s an important step in building up a mutual trust while serving as a strong reminder that they\u2019re not hated – after all, you wouldn\u2019t share that information if you didn\u2019t like them!<\/p>\n
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Script 5 | <\/strong>Let Them Know That You\u2019re There When They Need You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nYou\u2019re not hated at all. I love being around you, and I want to make sure that you\u2019re okay. Please just let me know if there\u2019s anything I can do for you – message me whenever you need! It doesn\u2019t matter what time it is or where you are, I\u2019ll do my best to be there.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
One of the greatest things that you can say to someone who thinks that they\u2019re hated is that you\u2019re there for them (and you\u2019ll always be there for them) whenever they might need it. It drills home the idea that they shouldn\u2019t feel lonely, or that you will go out of your way to make sure they are comfortable and happy.<\/p>\n
This script is a great choice for a few reasons: it reminds your friend that they\u2019re not hated, that people enjoy being in their company, and that you\u2019re willing to help them out however you can, whenever you can.<\/p>\n
By reminding your friend that they are loved, you can help them to build up confidence – this will then allow them to realise that people don\u2019t hate them, whilst hopefully becoming a stronger person.<\/p>\n
Another benefit of this script is that it reassures your friend that you care a lot about them, and that you really do only want the best for them.<\/p>\n
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