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Workplaces are growing, diverse spaces, with people of many personality types working together. Generally, when employees are well-behaved in their interactions with each other, the environment is pleasant. The problem starts when one type of personality causes a total clash with the others.<\/p>\n
One of those types is the tattletale co-worker or employees who seem to forget their boundaries. They have business with everybody\u2019s business and like to talk about it to the higher-ups, intentionally or unintentionally damaging the reputations of others.<\/p>\n
Tattletales\u00a0can\u00a0be difficult\u00a0to handle, but with the right amount and quality of words based on solid concepts, you can make the situation turn in your favor. Here are a few techniques you can use to deal with the tattletale employee.<\/p>\n
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Tattle-tale people are sometimes very nosy and end up gossiping about matters that don\u2019t, in any possible way, concern them.\u00a0To deal with these people, you must have a very stern policy of not talking about anyone behind their back.<\/p>\n
If you settle for a culture that involves talking behind others’ backs, then you are encouraging that, and it may end up turning against you. Instead, if it happens around you, try to take a stand and call that person off. Some words you can use to gently remind them of their boundaries are as follows:<\/p>\n
\nI understand your concern,\u00a0but I generally avoid having discussions about people behind their backs.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\nLet’s not waste our time on the wrongdoings or personal lives of others.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\n[Name], there is nothing that is affecting you in this situation, but you still seem very preoccupied with it.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
These replies, which politely remind them of their place and introduce your concerns, can go a long way\u00a0in\u00a0making the office a more pleasant workplace.<\/p>\n
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If you find the person in question to be habitually involved in negative behavior, your first instinct should be to investigate why they are behaving this way.<\/p>\n
Speak with a concerned tone to convey that you care about the situation they are going through, and mention that the kind of people who are generally involved in tattletale behavior often have lower self-esteem.<\/p>\n
The talk might also circle the topic of how toxic people are often disliked and don\u2019t have a lot of friends (or close friends at least) in most cases.<\/p>\n
The conversation with these people should be carefully worded to show them empathy.<\/p>\n
At first, it might come across as insulting for them, but if you are genuine and kind enough to drag the conversation to a few minutes, the chances are that you\u2019ll get to them and might even get to their triggers or motivation as to why they do it.<\/p>\n
Display patience, respect, and genuineness. You could phrase this like the following paragraph below:<\/p>\n
\nHey [Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I\u2019ve meant to talk to you about something, can you spare some time? [You might ask to go to lunch together.] You know, I\u2019ve been in this office for long enough to realize that your interactions with others aren’t very pleasant, and if I\u2019m entirely honest, I am a little concerned because I think this might severely affect you.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
We\u2019ve had a few experiences together, and based on what I\u2019ve seen, I wouldn\u2019t want to have much interaction with you. I seriously think that you are better than this, and you could do much better if you work on yourself rather than focusing on what others are doing.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I hope I am not coming across as disrespectful, but you acting this way directly affects me and others, and I would like for us to have a good working relationship.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This way is definitely best for employees who are not beyond repair, and should only be used when you think you have the ability to handle the situation, but keep it on the table when considering your options. If not used as a concern, it could be a good confrontation as well.<\/p>\n
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