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So you’ve embarrassed yourself at work- welcome to the club as most of us have been here at some point during our careers! Sometimes we mess up spectacularly at work and this is enough to cost us the respect of those around us or (if we’re very unlucky) even our jobs.<\/p>\n
With a little damage control, you can make your embarrassment a thing of the past, but you\u2019ll have to work hard to rebuild your relationships and manage your reputation going forward. So how do we go about this theoretically?<\/p>\n
You don’t have to buy into your reputation- understand you made a mistake and that means you temporarily acted like a jerk but this doesn’t mean you ‘are a jerk’. Yes, our reputations do matter, and what others think of us does have some effect on our lives (to a certain extent) but this is not a life or death situation and (if you don’t resist or become overly defensive) things will swiftly move on if you act with grace and humility.<\/p>\n
In order to demonstrate that you’re a person of integrity, you’re going to have to admit your wrong-doing or slip-ups. At first, this won’t feel pleasant, but after a while, you’ll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. You’ll appear more human and relatable to others which will result in you being forgiven much faster.<\/p>\n
Maybe you didn’t even do anything untoward to somebody- perhaps it was that nude selfie that accidentally popped up during a slideshow presentation that slipped you up or unintentionally insulting the wrong person that’s left you red-faced. That’s okay- accept it’s happened. It was probably your fault and now you are rectifying the problem so it never happens again. That’s how we all learn and progress.<\/p>\n
Granted, if you cost your company clients because an expletive slipped out your mouth during a pitch it’s probably best to not laugh directly in front of your angry boss at the time. Once the dust has settled, however, look for the funny side of the situation. Smile and then recalibrate.<\/p>\n
Contrary to how the human brain works (thinking everyone is paying way more attention to us than they actually are) as long as the mistake doesn’t keep reappearing to draw attention to your flaws, they’ve likely been forgotten anyway.<\/p>\n
Just think, most of us have done EXACTLY the same thing as you at some point; perhaps we were just more fortunate to not get caught. The reason we suggest you laugh at your embarrassment is less about how you appear to others but more about how you appear to you- treat yourself with the same forgiveness (and benefit of the doubt) you give to others.<\/p>\n
The more evolved we become, the less judgemental we become of others because experience teaches us how we can all misinterpret, make bad judgments and make a mess of things no matter how smart, attractive or funny we are.<\/p>\n
Not having an intense emotional response to your embarrassment and otherwise accepting your mistakes gracefully likely means you are a high-value person and this will shine through to others.<\/p>\n
If you have something to apologize for make sure you do it promptly and with sincerity. Help yourself after a work blunder by expressing an attitude of apology, even if you don’t really \u201cfeel\u201d it or don’t think the failure was entirely your responsibility. Own up to your involvement regardless of whether others do and lead by example.<\/p>\n
Now that your mindset is in the right place, we’re going to outline some instances and examples of exactly what to say to minimize the damage after you’ve embarrassed yourself at work:<\/strong><\/p>\n
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\nI got the impression I really messed up with [Insert Client Name] yesterday. I think I misunderstood [Insert Variable]. I feel terrible that you guys all put so much effort into the pitch and I dropped the ball on my end. Let me see if I can make things right by [Insert Variable].<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Talking about your blunder is probably THE last thing you feel like doing at this point. But how you take responsibility for what happened will be one of the definitive factors in the impression it leaves. It’s best to immediately admit what happened without giving excuses or getting defensive.<\/p>\n
The more concerned you appear, the less your supervisor or colleagues are likely to feel that they need to reinforce the severity of the mistake on you. They may even try to make you feel better and this works in your favor every time.<\/p>\n
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