[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ fullwidth=”on” admin_label=”Fullwidth Post Title Header” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ background_color=”#f7f7f7″ use_background_color_gradient=”on” background_color_gradient_start=”rgba(255,255,255,0.3)” background_color_gradient_end=”rgba(33,51,101,0)” parallax=”on” custom_margin=”0px||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px|0px|0px|0px|false|false” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ global_module=”767″ saved_tabs=”all” locked=”on” collapsed=”on”][et_pb_fullwidth_post_title author=”off” date=”off” comments=”off” featured_placement=”background” text_background=”on” text_bg_color=”rgba(255,255,255,0.5)” admin_label=”Fullwidth Post Title” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ title_font=”Playfair Display|900|||on||||” title_text_align=”center” title_text_color=”#213365″ title_font_size=”55px” meta_font=”Poppins|500|on||||||” meta_text_align=”center” meta_font_size=”14px” meta_letter_spacing=”2px” meta_line_height=”1.8em” background_color=”#f7f7f7″ background_color_gradient_direction=”245deg” custom_padding=”130px||250px|||” custom_padding_tablet=”150px||150px” custom_padding_phone=”50px||50px” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|desktop” title_font_size_tablet=”45px” title_font_size_phone=”40px” title_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” border_radii=”on|5px|5px|5px|5px” border_width_all=”1px” border_color_all=”RGBA(0,0,0,0)” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_fullwidth_post_title][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”Post Content” _builder_version=”4.9.0″][et_pb_row column_structure=”3_4,1_4″ admin_label=”Post Content” _builder_version=”4.9.0″][et_pb_column type=”3_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Introduction” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font=”Poppins||||||||” hover_enabled=”0″ locked=”on” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
Even in today’s modern world, it\u2019s common for most people do not to know how to handle the aftermath of a one-night stand. Whether the experience was hideous, or the most amazing thing you’ve ever encountered; you can remember every detail, or wonder how you even got there in the first place- it’s safe to say hookups can be tricky situations to navigate.<\/strong><\/p>\n
The secret to handling the awkward atmosphere of a one-night stand is to wake up the next morning the same friendly and confident person you were the night before. Too often we start acting odd either from over-analysis, regret, shame, or fear of rejection but we simply don’t need to do this.<\/p>\n
It helps to remember that if this person is meant to be in our lives we won’t need to beg or chase them; similarly, we are not obligated to take things further if we don’t want to, politely telling someone ‘no thank you’ doesn’t mean we are a bad person. We aren’t ‘unloveable’ if someone does not want to see us again, and our value is not dependant on what others think of us but on what we think of ourselves.<\/p>\n
Maybe you would like to see this person again, have a feeling that there may be more between you, or perhaps the shoe is on the other foot and the feeling isn’t mutual? Also, nobody ever tells you how to act afterward, it leaves us feeling awkward unsure of how we’re coming across; were we umm… good? Do they want to see us again? <\/span>Wherever your head is at, and whatever outcome you’re looking for is – we’ve got some helpful suggestions of what you can say to put your best self forward:<\/span><\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/couple-bed-never-right-word.jpg” admin_label=”Single Image” _builder_version=”4.4.8″ custom_css_main_element=”}||.wrapper {||position: relative;||height: 0;||\/* Formula is: (height \/ width * 100%) *\/||padding-top: calc(590 \/ 800 * 100%);||}||||.wrapper__img {||position: absolute;||top: 0;||left: 0;||max-width: 100%;||height: auto;” border_radii=”on|5px|5px|5px|5px” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”3.21.2″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text admin_label=”Template 1″ _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font=”Poppins||||||||” header_font=”||||||||” header_2_font=”||||||||” hover_enabled=”0″ header_2_font_size_tablet=”” header_2_font_size_phone=”26px” header_2_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” locked=”on” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
\nHey, I had a great time last night. I remember you said you were into [Insert relevant hobby\/band\/gig\/movie]? Which is actually really weird\/ funny because I was talking with my friend the other day about doing that exact thing. It’s always great to chat to people who are into the same things as me, I find that not everyone has such great taste! Anyway, I’m disgustingly behind my schedule – enjoy the rest of your day.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
The secret of people that are successful in love is that they know not to wait for opportunities, and instead know how to turn situations into opportunities. This script is sneaky in that it encourages the other person to ask you out when it’s actually you who wants to see them again.<\/p>\n
In this script, we want to tell a story that lets us indirectly smuggle in the message that we think we would be a good potential partner for this person and that we are interested in seeing them again without coming across as desperate or needy. The idea is to seamlessly have a conversation that plants seeds of intrigue and mystery leaving the person in question wanting to see you more.<\/p>\n
This script is also really handy for displaying characteristics you want to show off or display without coming across as bragging or being self-indulgent. Share a fact or experience about you that displays your unique and attractive qualities. When you learn how to pull this off well, it\u2019s so subtle that even the person you\u2019re speaking to will feel like they are in charge, even though in reality you\u2019re steering the ship.<\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/lesbian-couple-never-right-word-scaled.jpg” admin_label=”Single Image” _builder_version=”4.4.8″ custom_css_main_element=”}||.wrapper {||position: relative;||height: 0;||\/* Formula is: (height \/ width * 100%) *\/||padding-top: calc(470 \/ 800 * 100%);||}||||.wrapper__img {||position: absolute;||top: 0;||left: 0;||max-width: 100%;||height: auto;” border_radii=”on|5px|5px|5px|5px” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_divider admin_label=”Divider” _builder_version=”3.21.2″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text admin_label=”Template 2″ _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font=”Poppins||||||||” header_font=”||||||||” header_2_font=”||||||||” hover_enabled=”0″ locked=”on” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
Script 2 | If You Like Them, Speak to The “Shadow Self”<\/strong><\/h2>\n
<\/p>\n
\nWell I feel like I was introduced to a whole other side to you last night! this [Insert Person’s Name] is a whole lot of fun. I must admit underestimated you.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
To get others hooked on us, we have to follow that old adage: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. If you talk in ways that suggest that you would be acceptable to the person’s “Shadow Self” (the side of your personality that contains all the parts of yourself that you don\u2019t want to admit to having)\u00a0<\/em>this person is going to feel as though you might be the one person that really understands them. Not only is this obviously very attractive but it’s going to encourage them to open up to you even more.<\/p>\n
If you’re brave you could compliment the person’s skill or other features about themselves that they’re not a fan of. However, it is important to be genuine when you do this as fake compliments will come across as patronizing. This tactic works best for starting relationships with people you have known for a longer period of time. If you can get into someone\u2019s mind, you\u2019ll have no problem winning their heart.<\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/gay-couple-never-right-word-scaled.jpg” admin_label=”Single Image” _builder_version=”4.4.8″ custom_css_main_element=”}||.wrapper {||position: relative;||height: 0;||\/* Formula is: (height \/ width * 100%) *\/||padding-top: calc(470 \/ 800 * 100%);||}||||.wrapper__img {||position: absolute;||top: 0;||left: 0;||max-width: 100%;||height: auto;” border_radii=”on|5px|5px|5px|5px” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text admin_label=”Copyright and Affiliate Links Notice” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font_size=”16px” text_line_height=”1.8em” global_module=”10507″ locked=”on”]<\/p>\n
Illustrations courtesy of <\/i>Shutterstock<\/strong>.<\/i><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n
This article was originally published on <\/i>https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com<\/i><\/span><\/a><\/strong>. If this article appears on any other site other than <\/i>https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com<\/i><\/span><\/a><\/strong> without clear referencing it is a violation of the copyright owned by <\/i>https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com<\/i><\/span><\/a><\/strong>.<\/i><\/p>\n
This article may contain affiliate links. That means if you click and buy a product, we may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. <\/span><\/em>Never the Right Word is a participant in the Awin Affiliates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to participating merchants.<\/span><\/em>\u00a0For more information, please view our <\/span><\/em>Privacy Policy and Earnings Disclosure page.<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n
Script 3 | If You Want to See This Person Again and They Text You for Round Two…<\/strong><\/h2>\n
<\/p>\n
\nHey stranger! Thanks for the invite but I’ve already got plans this evening. Would be great to meet again soon though. Let\u2019s see if we can make plans in advance, last minute doesn\u2019t always work with my schedule.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\nMy mother always told me nothing good ever happens after [Insert the time they contacted you], but I\u2019m around [Insert time\/date here] if you wanted to get together?<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
These scripts are high-value and friendly ways to suggest that you are interested in seeing this person again, but you’re not just going to drop everything to see the last minute. You’re encouraging the other person to pursue you by registering your interest but you’re also setting the tone of what you will and won’t accept. This is important in the early stages of creating the dynamics of your relationship.<\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/www.nevertherightword.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/heterosexual-couple-never-right-word-scaled.jpg” admin_label=”Single Image” _builder_version=”4.4.8″ custom_css_main_element=”}||.wrapper {||position: relative;||height: 0;||\/* Formula is: (height \/ width * 100%) *\/||padding-top: calc(470 \/ 800 * 100%);||}||||.wrapper__img {||position: absolute;||top: 0;||left: 0;||max-width: 100%;||height: auto;” border_radii=”on|5px|5px|5px|5px” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_divider admin_label=”Divider” _builder_version=”3.21.2″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text admin_label=”Template 4″ _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font=”Poppins||||||||” header_font=”||||||||” header_2_font=”||||||||” hover_enabled=”0″ header_2_font_size_tablet=”” header_2_font_size_phone=”26px” header_2_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” locked=”on” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
Script 4 | and If You’d Rather Not See Them Again…<\/strong><\/h2>\n
<\/p>\n
\nHey [Name], Thanks for a great time last night. I don’t want to come across as too presumptuous (so please forgive me if I’m making a fool out of myself) but out of respect for you I just wanted to put it out there that I’m not looking for anything regular or serious at the moment. Again, I know I’m probably overestimating my abilities, but I just want to make sure we’re both on the same page.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
No one likes to be rejected, (so don’t be surprised if you get a frosty response) but being clear from the very start in this instance is always the way to go. You can take pride in the fact that by being upfront and honest you are respecting both your and their time and emotions.<\/p>\n
If you want more examples of this, we’ve written a few articles on nicely rejecting people such as; 5 Messages to Politely Reject a Persistent Admirer<\/a><\/strong> and 5 Message Templates to Reject Somebody in Tough Life Situations<\/a><\/strong> which we think you should check out.<\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider admin_label=”Divider” _builder_version=”3.21.2″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text admin_label=”Conclusion” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_font=”Poppins||||||||” hover_enabled=”0″ locked=”on” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
At Never the Right Word, our aim is to give you practical examples of how to handle life\u2019s difficult conversations. If you have an awkward situation that you\u2019d like example templates for, request a topic here<\/b><\/span><\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n
If you\u2019re interested in further reading, we\u2019ve also included links to our trusted resources and related posts below. To find out more\u00a0about NTRW<\/b><\/span><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0our\u00a0recommended tools<\/b><\/span><\/a>,<\/b> you can do that\u00a0here<\/b>.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n
Lastly, if you found this content helpful or want to share your own examples, let us know in the comments. We\u2019d also be delighted if you shared this article and joined us on social media too!<\/p>\n
[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_social_media_follow admin_label=”Social Media Follow” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ text_orientation=”left” custom_padding=”|||0px|false|false” animation_style=”fade” global_module=”2624″ locked=”on”][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”facebook” url=”https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Never-the-Right-Word-2332331026978338\/?ti=as” _builder_version=”3.22.4″ background_color=”#213365″ custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”6px|6px|6px|6px” follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on”]facebook[\/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”instagram” url=”https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/nevertherightword\/” _builder_version=”3.22.5″ background_color=”#213365″ custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”6px|6px|6px|6px” follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on”]instagram[\/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”pinterest” url=”https:\/\/www.pinterest.co.uk\/NevertheRightWord\/” _builder_version=”3.22.4″ background_color=”#213365″ custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”6px|6px|6px|6px” follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on”]pinterest[\/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”youtube” url=”https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCjHNULLGiSGG_02JoD6xgDg” _builder_version=”3.22.5″ background_color=”#213365″ custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”6px|6px|6px|6px” follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on”]youtube[\/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”linkedin” url=”https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/company\/nevertherightword\/” _builder_version=”4.2.2″ background_color=”#213365″ background_enable_color=”on” custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”6px|6px|6px|6px” follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on”]linkedin[\/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][\/et_pb_social_media_follow][et_pb_divider admin_label=”Divider” _builder_version=”3.21.2″ locked=”on”][\/et_pb_divider][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_sidebar orientation=”right” show_border=”off” disabled_on=”on|on|off” admin_label=”Sticky Sidebar” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_font=”Poppins||||||||” header_text_color=”#FFFFFF” body_font=”Poppins||||||||” body_text_color=”#213365″ body_font_size=”10px” body_line_height=”1.5em” background_color=”RGBA(0,0,0,0)” text_orientation=”left” width=”340px” sticky_position=”top” sticky_offset_top=”30px” sticky_limit_bottom=”row” custom_css_title=”}||.et_pb_sidebar_0_h4.widgettitle {||background-color:#213365;” border_radii=”on|3px|3px|3px|3px” global_module=”62122″ locked=”on” width__hover_enabled=”on|desktop”][\/et_pb_sidebar][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row admin_label=”Recent Articles and Relevant Books We Recommend” _builder_version=”4.9.4″ custom_padding=”30px|||||” global_module=”2783″ locked=”on” collapsed=”on”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_code admin_label=”This Post Was Proofread By Grammarly” _builder_version=”4.4.5″ locked=”on”]