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The intense pain and unpleasant emotions that follow bereavement can often make those who are trying to comfort the grieving extremely uncomfortable about offering support. Our\u00a0anxiety\u00a0is\u00a0heightened even further when we\u00a0wish to express our condolences but\u00a0don\u2019t know the bereaved person very well. We\u00a0agonize over\u00a0finding the right words\u00a0which often leads to avoiding the conversation altogether.\u00a0Sometimes\u00a0we are literally left speechless by the circumstances of the passing, particularly where a death has been either very sudden, tragic, or both.<\/strong><\/p>\n
It\u2019s important to remember that the bereaved need to feel that their loss is acknowledged<\/span> and that their loved ones won<\/span>\u2019<\/span>t be forgotten. One of the best ways of supporting those grieving is to show that however they\u00a0<\/span>choos<\/span>e<\/span>\u00a0to process the situation<\/span>, whether it<\/span>\u2019<\/span>s<\/span>\u00a0through discussion<\/span> or withdrawal, you intend to listen without judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n
The passing of a loved one is one of life\u2019s most difficult experiences and is, unfortunately, something that most of us will experience<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>at some point<\/span>\u00a0during our lifetimes<\/span>. In some cases, we can\u2019t always be there in person to offer our condolences. For that, we\u2019ve put together 5 supportive template text messages that can be personalized to suit your particular situation.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
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\nI have just heard your news and I am so sorry for your loss. Saying the right thing is never easy, but I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and I am here for you<\/span><\/span>.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0Anything you need and I\u2019ll be there<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>– just message me where and when.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
When the<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>chaos of death and funeral arrangements start to kick in,<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>those grieving may feel overwhelmed by<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>the expectations that are placed on them.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>This message affirms<\/span><\/span>\u00a0that support is there when they need it and gives them the opportunity to take some time out from the intensity and society\u2019s expectations of grief. It goes without saying that you should be prepared to take the time for this person or persons should they make a request.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
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Text Template 2 | \u201cI Would like to Offer Help\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n
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\nI have heard your sad news about [Insert Name] They were a wonderful person and I know you are hurting right now. If there is anything that I can help with in terms of funeral arrangements or supporting the family at this sad time, then please do not hesitate to contact me. I\u2019m\u00a0Thinking of you.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This text is effective for those who show their love and appreciation through acts of service.\u00a0The chances are that most of the arrangements have already been taken care of however sending a message like is a token of support. Again, please only offer help if you are able to follow through.<\/p>\n
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Text Template 3 | \u201cI Want to Send My Well Wishes\u201d<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nI\u2019ve just heard about [Insert Name] and I am so sorry to hear your news. It really came as a shock to me and I just wanted to express my condolences at this sad time. Anything you need, just let me know.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Simple and straightforward and useful when you really aren\u2019t that friendly with the bereaved but feel that you\u00a0would\u00a0like\u00a0to offer some kind of condolences.<\/p>\n
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Text Template 4 | \u201cGrief Is Different for Everybody\u201d<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nIt\u2019s ok to do whatever you feel you need to do to get through this difficult time.\u00a0People will understand your grief and remember that there is no \u2018normal\u2019. I just want you to remember that you have friends, and friends will understand that you are grieving at the moment and won\u2019t judge you. Just remember that [Insert Name] will always be a part of your life; in your heart and in your thoughts.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Grief hits people in very different ways. Their reactions can cause them to feel guilt on top of all their other emotions, especially when a death is unexpected or comes as a shock. If you are particularly close to someone then this is a really good response. It reminds them that the individual they have lost has had an impact on them and that they will never be forgotten.<\/p>\n
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Text Template 5 |\u00a0 \u201cTreasure the Memories\u201d<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nI am so sorry for your loss.\u00a0 I remember them when they did [Insert relevant memory]. They were such a special person that I am sure you will all greatly miss. My thoughts are with you always.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This text has a personal touch. It works particularly well when you recall a funny memory that makes the bereaved person smile, serving to lighten the mood and to make your friend remember the good times. This allows them to take the focus away from their grief for a short period and provides a bit of light relief in very dark times. Gallows humor maybe, but effective, nonetheless.<\/p>\n
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The death of a close friend or relative is one of those experiences that everyone has to go through at some point\u00a0in their lives, so it is always good to be prepared and ready with a response. We do however hope that your most important friendships are precious enough to you that they extend beyond just a text message and that you would undertake this kind of interaction face to face.<\/span><\/p>\n
If you or a loved one would help to deal with bereavement you can get help from the following:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
The United States | Crisis Call\u00a0Center<\/span><\/a><\/strong>\u00a0at 775-784-8090 \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
The United Kingdom | Cruse Bereavement Care<\/span><\/a><\/strong>\u00a0at 0808 808 1677\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Should anybody suffering from grief\u00a0start discussing\u00a0suicide it is important to seek help immediately. You can get further information from\u00a0<\/b>Suicide Prevention<\/b><\/span><\/a>\u00a0or call a suicide helpline:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
The United States | 1-800-273-8255. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
The United Kingdom | 116 123.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
You can visit\u00a0IASP<\/span><\/a><\/strong>\u00a0for a helpline in your country.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
At Never the Right Word, our aim is to give you practical examples of how to handle life\u2019s difficult conversations. If you have an awkward situation that you\u2019d like example templates for, request a topic here<\/b><\/span><\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/b>\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re interested in further reading, we\u2019ve also included links to our trusted resources and related posts below. To find out more\u00a0about NTRW<\/b><\/span><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0our\u00a0recommended tools<\/b><\/span><\/a>,<\/b> you can do that\u00a0here<\/b>.<\/span><\/a>\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n
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