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Coming under attack from another person is never a pleasant experience, and it can quickly lead us to feel defensive or upset. A verbal attack on you can quickly spiral into a full-blown argument, with insults and accusations flying from both sides. <\/span><\/p>\n
This kind of situation is rarely a good thing, and if you find yourself on the receiving end of such an attack, it\u2019s useful to have some tactics to hand to defuse the situation and quickly take back control. <\/span>Otherwise, you could end up feeling utterly defeated, or retaliating, losing your temper and saying things that you later regret. <\/span><\/p>\n
Here are 8 scripts to instantly take back control when you feel personally attacked<\/strong>, whether in the office or in a domestic situation.<\/span><\/p>\n
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\nYou clearly feel very strongly about this. Let\u2019s discuss it together later when we\u2019ve both had time to think about it.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This template makes it clear that you are not prepared to enter into any kind of argument on the spot. <\/span><\/p>\n
At the same time, you are also making it clear that you are not simply shutting down the conversation, but making an arrangement to discuss it calmly at a later point in time, when you\u2019ve had time to consider your response. <\/span><\/p>\n
Of course, by suggesting that you both need time to think about things, you are also buying time for the other person to calm down and think more rationally about the situation that has triggered their outburst.<\/span><\/p>\n
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Script 2 | Take Back Control by Accepting Their Point of View and Then Sharing Yours<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nYou’ve made a valid point and I accept your point of view but I would appreciate if you could consider… [Insert your point of view].<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n
If it\u2019s just not possible to stop the verbal assault completely by arranging to discuss things later, the next best thing is to respond rationally. <\/span><\/p>\n
Acknowledge any factual point made in the outburst, whilst ignoring any inflammatory language altogether, and then put your side of the case in a clear and factual way. <\/span><\/p>\n
If the other person responds with more aggression, simply repeat your own arguments in a calm voice. Stick to this until the heat goes out of the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n
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