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So you’ve been having an affair and have been thinking of confessing because the horrible feelings of guilt have become overwhelming. Maybe someone’s threatening to ‘out’ you or you’re tired of the lies and want to get the weight off your back for peace of mind. You love your partner and don’t want to lose them but at the same time, you need to be true to yourself.<\/p>\n
One thing’s for sure- honesty feels really good. In this article, we discuss exactly how we would go about telling our partners that cheated on them. It’s not going to make your good look, but owning your mistakes and acting with integrity is far more likely to make your mistake easier to forgive.<\/p>\n
Now before feathers are ruffled, it’s worth being reminded that situations are very rarely black and white; there isn’t a one-size-fits-all when it comes to romantic relationships, and making mistakes doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a bad person.<\/p>\n
What is important to remember is that cheating can destroy a relationship, especially if it’s hidden with the hope that your partner never finds out. If they don\u2019t, you\u2019ll have to face your guilt demons. If they do, they\u2019ll probably throw in the towel for your continuous dishonesty.<\/p>\n
While cheating is wrong, what\u2019s more, wrong is not telling your loved one about your indiscretion if you truly care about them. If you’re finding the guilt difficult to live with you might want to face the situation head-on and confess your wrong-doing.<\/p>\n
That’s why we wrote these 3 honest confession letter templates to help you out. Deception is not a great feeling and for most of us it will be hard to admit, but these confession letters can help you get started and get you back on track.<\/strong><\/p>\n
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\nDear [Insert Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I cannot find the words to describe the regret, guilt, and deep sadness that plague me. I know I did wrong and I cannot process how much this must hurt you. I want to do nothing more than undo it, and since I cannot, I just want to apologize a million times over, but I know that won’t change anything. I’m sorry, but I know those words don’t take the pain out of your heart. This was unforgivable, and I deserve every bit of anger and resentment you must feel for me.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I put you through something you should have never had to experience, and the suffering that resulted burns my heart. I was reckless, I was thoughtless, and all I can think of right now is how much I love you. My heart is filled with love for you and that’s why I want so badly to continue working on our relationship. I care so deeply for you and I need you to continue being a part of my life. It was a mistake, and I know I have no right to ask for anything after this foolish behavior, but the only way forward for me is to ask for your forgiveness.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I know that it won’t come quickly, but I’m hoping that in your kind heart you will decide to give me the opportunity to love and cherish you as you deserve. I don’t want us to end this way. I want that happy future we have always envisioned, filled with so much joy and laughter. This letter couldn’t possible encompass an appropriate apology, but I’d like to end it with a deep sentiment. One day, I’d like us to look back on these dark times and be happy we didn’t walk away from one another.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Waiting to hear from you,<\/strong><\/h5>\n
[Insert Name]<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Like all of these letters, this letter would be better handwritten and delivered to your partner face-to-face after giving them a direct confession and apology for what you did. This letter does nothing to explain what happened, as that should be done in person. Don\u2019t expect an immediate resolution. Instead, leave them with a letter like this and tell them you want to continue talking when they are ready.<\/p>\n
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Letter Template 2 | Demonstrating Empathy<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nDear [Insert Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I’m sorry for the pain I have caused you. I realize an apology does very little to help alleviate that pain, but I must speak the words if there is any hope of us moving forward. This mistake was absolutely unforgivable, but I cannot remain silent about it. That would imply that I have no feelings for you–yet, in reality, I care so deeply for you.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
My love for you is only matched by the regret and guilt I currently feel for having done this so foolishly. I know that most cannot continue in a relationship after they have been cheated on. Very few are able to put it behind them and move forward as partners into a successful, lasting relationship–but I want us to be part of that small group of lovers who found a way to heal the wounds. I know it will take time, but I am prepared to be here with you for as long as you will let me stay.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
We are at a crossroads and I know the direction we take is not up to my in this moment. If you feel that you can no longer love me like you used to, I will respect your decision, but I wish fervently that we can continue in our journey together. What matters most to me, above everything, is your happiness and well-being. I don’t know what to say or do at this point, but please know I am here and waiting to talk whenever you are ready.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Thinking of you,<\/strong><\/h5>\n
[Insert Name]<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This letter helps to genuinely express the pain and regret you are feeling for the pain you have caused your loved one. It also leaves the decision up to them, as it is after they have been cheated on. It opens the doors to discussion about whether you can continue as a couple, emphasizing that you truly hope to do so and that you aren\u2019t ready to give up.<\/p>\n
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