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The feud between spouses and in-laws seems to be a trope at this point, but an unhealthy relationship between a person and their in-laws is no laughing matter.<\/strong><\/p>\n
The fact is, the tension in this relationship can cause tension in a marriage and between an entire family, so it’s important to make amends with in-laws quickly if anything has happened that has caused disagreements on either side.<\/p>\n
If you have found yourself on the wrong side of your in-laws and need to fix the situation, take a deep breath. We’ve written some handy letter templates to get you started.<\/strong><\/p>\n
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\nDear Mrs.\/ Mr. [Insert Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
I’m writing to you today because I know there is tension between us and I would like to talk through it. When your daughter and I married, we agreed to accept each other’s family as our own, and I truly want to build a healthy and honest relationship with you. <\/strong><\/h5>\n
I understand that we haven’t had the chance to spend a lot of time together, so I’d like the opportunity to talk. <\/strong>I’d love the chance to share some of my career goals along with the plans [Insert Your Partner’s Name]\u00a0 and I have for starting a family. <\/strong><\/h5>\n
I’d also appreciate your input on some things, as I know your opinion means the world to your daughter, and I value it greatly, too. When you get the chance, please give me a call.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Sincerely,<\/strong><\/h5>\n
[Insert Your Name]<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This letter is a great general template, regardless of what has caused the tension or distance between you and your in-laws.<\/p>\n
It panders a bit to the shared love you have for their child, and it helps open the doors without placing blame on anyone or even bringing up the issue.<\/p>\n
Instead, it talks about the future and how important it is that you two get along and open up for the sake of the entire family.<\/p>\n
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Letter 2 | Building Relationships with Estranged InLaws<\/b><\/h2>\n
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\nDear Mr. and Mrs. [Insert Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
As you know, Scott and I recently celebrated our third anniversary together, and with each year, we have grown so much closer. <\/strong><\/h5>\n
I know I am a better person for having him in my life, and it’s so important to both of us that we spend time together as a family. That’s why I’m writing to you today in hopes of getting together and talking soon.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
We haven’t had the opportunity to spend a lot of time together, but as time goes by, I realize more and more how much it would mean for us to build a stronger relationship. <\/strong><\/h5>\n
Would you like to get together sometime? Our doors are always open and we’d love to have you for dinner.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Sincerely,<\/strong><\/h5>\n
[Insert Your Name]<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This letter takes a similar approach as the first, but gives a direct invitation to help get the conversation going between the spouse and their in-laws.<\/p>\n
It also takes a friendly and meaningful approach to explaining the reason for the letter, stating that it would mean a lot if they could have a close relationship and bond with their in-laws.<\/p>\n
This letter is a great one to customize, especially if you have been with your spouse for a long time and feel there is distance between you and your in-laws that you would like to address.<\/p>\n
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Letter 3 | Getting to Know Each Other\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\nDear Mr. and Mrs. [Name],<\/strong><\/h5>\n
After spending some time with you this past Christmas, I realized how much it would mean for us to get to know each other better. <\/strong><\/h5>\n
Even after all this time, I feel like we haven’t really built a strong connection, and I’d love the opportunity for us to get together as a family and just chat. Let me know when would work for you two.<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Sincerely,<\/strong><\/h5>\n
[Insert Your Name]<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n
This letter is short and simple. If you can open it by bringing up a previous meeting (hopefully a positive or cordial one), you will help give yourself an “in” for spending more time together.<\/p>\n
Regardless, the justification remains the same: it’s important for spouses and in-laws to get along, and not getting along typically sprouts from them simply not knowing each other enough.<\/p>\n
Acknowledging this can open new doors to actually talk and build a bond.<\/p>\n
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While you might not ever be as close with your in-laws as you may have hoped, remaining open-minded and helpful to them is essential to building a healthy relationship with them and staying on talking terms. These letters are a good starting point for doing so, good luck, and remember, everything in life eventually moves on, including your mother-in-law’s frown!<\/p>\n
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